Wednesday, December 7, 2016

Here is an example of understanding oneself

This is an example widely used during Jeevan Vidya workshops. Let us say A and B are two people, and we make a record of what A feels about a mistake he/she has made and about a mistake B has made. This is what it would look like:

A: I am a human being, and so is B.
A: I want to be happy, and perhaps B wants the same.
A: I make mistakes, and so does B.
A: When I do make a mistake, it is unintentional. B, however, almost always makes mistakes on purpose, because that is the kind of person he is. His family background, too, is like this.
A: If I make a mistake, I would like to be reprimanded gently. Even when I make repeated mistakes, I should still be reprimanded only gently. But if B commits mistakes, he can be scolded. If he does so repeatedly, he must be punished severely. Sometimes it appears as if he will not change if he is not taught a lesson.

This is what A feels about B. And perhaps, B also thinks the same about A. Now, place yourself in A's shoes. Think of any person around you who you feel fits into B's character at times or always. It could be your wife, your children, neighbour, a friend, a co-religionist, etc. Is it not possible that the B for your A, can perceive you as the B for his A? This is what is common between all of us. The more we realise this about all the Bs around us, the more our attitudes toward others will change. This will also change the way we think of ourselves.


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  2. Sir, What you have done to improve DSSSB. We residents of Delhi also want Govt job

    I have approached many times and also mailed to all Delhi Ministers but no gain. I have filled a vacancy of post code 15/12 through DSSSB in 2012. Its first tier exam was conducted in 2015 and result came in 2016 and now I am just waiting for 2nd tier exam. I filled grievance against it at Delhi govt site and also written to PM but no improvement I found. Now DSSSB released a fresh notification on its website for a exam of some another post that was notified in 2007. It is taking exam after 10 years and I think it will give result next 10 years, then what will be the carrier of candidates anyone can easily guess.

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